My blog = my happy place. I don't know about you, but I blog because I ENJOY sharing my crafting with you & it is my fav form of therapy. If I didn't blog, I would STILL make the same projects I do, when I do. I don't get paid to blog & I have NEVER charged for tutorials or templates that I have shared even though some of my own friends have encouraged me to. Why? because the past year and a half that I've been blogging has been nothing but a positive, amazing experience---> until lately.
I received a comment Saturday for my tutorial on dying ribbon with Tattered Angels glimmer mist. This is what one person left for me to read:
"Ewww- those nails are just nasty gross! First of all, nobody over the age of 15 should wear that much tacky glitter on their nails. Secondly, the huge gouge out of the one on the left is soooooooooo trailer park style! Third thing: Nails that short and stubby should never be polished. Polish should draw attention to nice nails- not stubs! ...... she wrote more MEANER things that I don't even want to continue with and then she concluded her LOOOONG comment with: as for dying the trim; that's a great idea. Thanks for the tip. Just hire a hand model next time!" T***a
Wow... seriously... this woman "liked" my tip but had to rip on my nails! Now I've known of people leaving mean comments on other fellow bloggers' blogs (for whatever mean reason) but I counted myself lucky that I had never had anyone leave mean comments. Even spammers left "nice" comments on my blog! Lol!
So at first, I didn't know how to feel. I was hurt, angry, upset...and when I thought about her last statement, I even chuckled a bit cuz that was the WHOLE POINT of the tut! Hoping that it was a helpful tip/idea someone would find useful!
Ok, so I would no longer post tutorials. I would only post projects related to my obligations to the Design Teams I design for. I deleted the picture that was so offensive from my blog so that it would not cause anyone else any grief. And with that I went to bed.
The next day, I mulled around the house, didn't even want to check my dashboard for comments. I went to Starbucks for my Chocolate White Mocha fix & while sitting in the lounge chair waiting for my cuppa the good stuff, a guy walks in with a t-shirt that read "Mean People Suck!" so I pointed to his shirt & said, "yup, that's true- don't I know it!" so he walks over & we get to talking about this comment on my blog. We sat there for like 1/2 hour talking & giggling- just having a great time! So he left me with some words o' wisdom that I will now follow.
An Open letter to people who feel the need to leave mean comments on other people's blogs:
Dear Mean People,
Hi. I don't know why you feel the need to leave mean comments on other people's blogs other than because you are a horrible, miserable, ugly person on the outside, but especially on the inside. If there's something you don't like or that offends your delicate sensibilities I want to remind you there's a little red X or red button on your browser bar that you can use at any time to leave what offends you. But if you MUST be your nasty, evil self- then at least learn to phrase things so that you get your mean point across without stomping on someone else's feelings with your big combat boots. Remember, you should have learned that in Kindergarten.
The crafting community is by and large made up of truly kind crafters who love to share and be inspired by others. Most of us don't get paid to post on our blogs or to share what we know & create. So all we ask is for you to have the maturity & knowledge level of a kindergartener and know "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Simple. Mean People suck.
oh and T***a (who didn't leave me a way to reach her so that we may discuss her comment further) one last thing---> you SUCK!
So friends, despite this little bump on the road of bloggy goodness, I have decided that I'm going to continue to be ME. I'm still going to wear my pink, glittery nail polish because I LIKE it! and even though I'm no longer 15 (thank goodness, by the way!) I'm young at heart. And I'll STILL continue to share my creations, projects, tutorials, templates (for free) cuz that's who I am. Cuz my blog = my happy place. Cuz in the end, I craft for me first.
I craft with class. 'nuff said.